Mother's Day and the Mess It Is.

 

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Mother's Day for me is hard. It is not a light day by any means. My mom passed away a few years back and it has not been the same since. I saw someone post to not wish everyone a Happy Mother's Day today, because you do not know everyone's situation. Some holidays are harder for us then other's and some we can sail through, but regardless, you do not know everyone's situation in life. Someone may have just lost a baby, they could have lost a job, a wife, you do not know anyone everyone's life.

This year, this mother's day, I asked everyone not to wish me a happy M Day. I am struggling to breathe, to get through this day, to be ok on the other side. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is just sit with them, stay and hold their hand in silence. Just be with someone who may or may not be having a hard time.

Look for the people being quiet, the ones not talking about the day, not talking about flowers and phone calls. Right now people are waiting for those items and they wont get them. Their people will let the day slip by quietly. They will forget you and you know what, its a Sunday, a day of rest and you can choose how you spend your day. I am going to listen to life music at a venue today. I am going to sip wine slushies and just breathe in the fresh air and sway to the music, because that is how I will celebrate me. Spending a relaxing Sunday outside at a venue with wine and live music. 

One year for Mother's day I went to a Braves game alone. It was just me, no kids needing food, bathroom, soda or anything else and a lot of people gave me grief about it, but to me it was the perfect day. I got a day off .It was a great game. I had a lot of fun, I could shop, eat, enjoy the ride up and the ride back, both 2 hours of total peace. They stayed with their dad for the day.

Sometimes us mom's do not need the flowers, gifts, the pancakes in bed. Sometimes we need a day for ourselves without guilt for taking it. Some mother Day/s are quiet and some are filled with a whole mess of hoopla. I like the quiet ones. I will swing on my swing. I will write today. I will take my camera out in the back yard and photograph  who knows what. 

Today is a day for me, a day of rest, a day or spending time with myself and reflecting on my life. My work, my space in this world. Today is a Sunday, a day of rest. and I for one am going to enjoy it

No matter your life situation, I pray you have a great Sunday. Spend it how you want to and just enjoy your day of rest.

Happy Weekending to you all.

xoxoxo

Debbie