Standing with Your Tribe!

                                                         Photo by Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

Recently I wrote a piece on relationships and losing one self. I ponder why we sometimes accept less then we deserve. We are happy so we don't deserve more? We had our fill for the year, so clearly we need to give our morals, our respect for ourselves, our life over to someone else and let them do what they want with it? You may think I am a bit crazy but let's look at your life.

You grew up with whatever beliefs and morals that were instilled into you by the adults you had it your life. Uncle Jack says, "Women should be like a good book, seen on a self, but never read (or heard) and you shut up when you had an opinions. Aunt Charlene said "Women should be beautiful so when they are seen the men can take pride in them." And you always look nice every time you are with your person and you sit quietly like a church mouse and never pipe up because that would be insulting to your partner. If we are lucky we had role models who said things like: NEVER give up your power, your voice, for once you do you will be seen as weak and women are not weak! Or perhaps: You can be an engineer, who cares that it is mostly men, DO IT! You are just as smart!

We grow up with those morals instilled in us, we have beliefs and thoughts, and we know we can contribute to a conversation, we can hold our own in the world of intellects, and we are more then our waist size, hair color, or flirting abilities. Women, as Beyonce says, Run the World! We can take hold of this planet and shake it up!!!

We all have our crosses to bear, so the saying goes, but giving up on our dreams, our hopes, our goals is not one of them!You are more then enough to some person and to whomever that is, they need to help you, support you, be there through it all cheer leading you on! They do not need to sit with their hands under their arse and being idle. Our biggest supporters should be the people we love, our family, our friends, our significant other. If this is not the case then let them go, because life is to short to play by anyone else's rules. This is your life, your dreams, your hopes, your achievements,you need a tribe holding you up, guiding you along, and showing you the paved path behind you as they reach to say come stand next to me and I will help, not stand behind me and watch me.

Life is short! Make it all that YOU want it to be!

Your story teller/poet

Debbie
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